Let’s Talk Love: I’ Am In Love With My Stepfather, Why Do I Feel Like This, And Now, It Is Getting Out Of Hands..

He mistakenly walked into the bathroom when I was literally getting out the bath. I was completely naked.

Hello IFY’s TOTS,

I have a big problem. My name is Wanda from South Africa. I’ am very endowed with big hips and a very well-proportioned shape. I always have men asking me out where ever I go. Even married men after church service. I have no problem with getting a man.

The big problem is that I’m in love with my step dad. He is so handsome, tall and very muscular. He goes to the gym 5 days a week. He’s been good to my mum and I since she met him 5 years ago. My obsession started 4 years ago when he mistakenly walked into the bathroom when I was literally getting out the bath. I was completely naked and he saw everything. I think I forgot to lock the door, but anyways since then, my obsession has just been growing.

He gave me a good look up and down, apologized and walked out and shut the door behind him. Since then, I can’t sleep, eat even think about anything else except day dreaming about when me and him can be together.

Now I love my mum, she has been a rock and a pillar for me and I would never snatch her man. She deserves all the love and happiness and her man is also very respectful of me. He hasn’t made a move but treats me like a younger sister. I’m 21 years.

Please what can I do and how can I get over this obsession and abdominal act waiting to happen because I know I can seduce him with my body. Please help me.

IFY’S TOTS says

Hello family, I’m back this week with another problem that needs a solution.
I hope I can try and solve this without sounding too harsh.

Hey Wanda thanks for your email. I read your story and know that you have common sense for the fact that you haven’t done anything and it’s going on 4 years now. You are 21 years old, so why are you not thinking of getting your own place and move out.

Do you work?

Are you actually looking for a boyfriend or secretly hoping your step dad would breakup with your mother so you can take over.

Is that the reason why you haven’t given any other man a chance?

There’s only one solution for your problem, which is to move out of your mother’s house as soon as possible and get your own place.

Try and get yourself busy by doing things that make you happy, go dancing, join an Art or painting class, learn how to drive, go out with your female friends, or best yet, volunteer 3 hours a week in your local church or mosque and help them.

There are so many options you can pick from. It will take time but it will be much longer if you still live at home with them so, first and foremost, your priority is to move out. Remember you love your mother so dearly and don’t want to hurt her. So do the right thing.

Good luck and like I always say IT IS WHAT IT IS.

Till next week. Take care of each other, look out for one another and most of all keep smiling.

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